I really don’t like the word ‘try’. It’s a way of excusing yourself from really committing to something. It goes with phrases like, ‘I might’ or’I am hoping to’. Why do we find it so hard to say, ‘Yes’ or ‘No’, or else hold our tongue until we have made our decision? I made a choice a while ago to eliminate the word ‘try’ from my vocabulary.
Maybe it’s a way of excusing ourselves from failure? If I don’t commit, then no-one can say I put my best into it. People will know it wasn’t that important to me. Maybe.
When we say we are going to do something, and then we don’t, we disrespect and devalue ourselves as well as others. Even something as simple as being on time for something when you said you would be there at a certain time is a sign of respect.
When I notice myself engaging in these behaviours of ‘try’ or non-commitement either way it saddens me 😦 When I catch myself about to say ‘try’ I rethink what I’m about to say. As Yoda says in the movie Star Wars, ‘There is only do or do not.’ It’s hard to say no sometimes or nothing at all, but it’s better than saying, ‘Yes, and then not Being there.’ Disrespect sucks.
Even in the Bible it says, ‘Let your yes be yes, and your no be no.’ It also says to be either hot or cold, and that anything lukewarm is worth being spat out. You get what I’m saying 🙂
There will always be times where life interferes and plans don’t go the way you thought, but it’s the consistent behaviour patterns that say something about who you are. Even if everyone else is late, you be the one on time 🙂 Stand up for what you believe even if you’re the only one standing.
I have always believed in the power of a person’s word. It is worth valuing so highly. That way it doesn’t matter how many ‘No’s’ you say, because when you say ‘Yes’ people know you mean it. What they will hear is, ‘Yes, I respect you and you can count on me.’ It makes you feel so good to say that and know it’s true.
Yes, you can count on me 🙂