Respect: “A feeling of deep admiration elicited by a person’s abilities, qualities, or achievements.”
I had an experience recently that left me feeling so down on myself, so let down.
The word that kept coming back to me to describe how I felt was ‘Disrespected’. It was kinda intriguing to me as I haven’t ever really used that word to describe how I feel. I have always known ‘respect’ to be a word that is associated more with guys.
I felt as though people didn’t care what was important to me. I knew what I wanted and how I wanted it to be in this situation, and yet, no-body else seemed to really care. The thing is though, I felt bad for wanting things to be the way I wanted them to be. Instead of sticking to what I wanted, I changed, and adapted, and didn’t speak up, and worried about how other people felt..
In the end, the result was nothing like I had wanted it to be. It wasn’t something I was proud to put my name to. I didn’t admire myself for my abilities, qualities, or achievements. I was angry and embarrassed. I was so angry for not respecting myself enough to stand up for what I felt so passionately about. I disrespected myself, and as a result, allowed myself to be disrespected by everyone else 😦 It was humiliating.
The thing is though, I got it. I learnt something BIG. I have got to live my life and make decisions in a way that elicits my own self-respect. This is the priority. To respect ME. The more I respect myself, the more I can respect others. If other people feel upset or neglected because I choose to respect myself then there is nothing I can do about that. Up until now I prioritised how others felt, now I am choosing to prioritise how I feel.
There was another definition I came across when I looked up respect: “To avoid violation of or interference with.” I love this. To respect then, is to support something or someone fully, without trying to change anything about who they are or what they are doing. Starting with ourselves.
Do what YOU want to do. Be who you are. Don’t change, alter, compromise, or adapt to fit a mould you know you’re not. Be You. Only You. Always.
There is nothing in the world that will elicit more respect than that 🙂